- A professional matchmaker who reviews dating profiles shares common mistakes people make online.
- Maria Avgitidis, CEO of Agape Match, cited photos, bad prompts and focused on the number of likes.
- “If you talk more about yourself, the person who is interested in you will match you,” she said.
A fourth-generation matchmaker who runs a matchmaking service in New York and ranks online dating profiles on TikTok says there are common mistakes people make on dating apps.
Maria Avgitidis, 37, is the CEO of Agape Match, a high-end dating service that charges between $30,000 and $50,000 for a six-month contract. She recently led a popular Q&A called “Ask a Matchmaker” on her Instagram page, which has amassed over 31,000 followers at the time of writing.
In October 2020, she turned to TikTok, where she now has over 56,000 followers, when someone asked her to review her dating profile. Avgitidis told Insider that her debut video, which had 18,000 views at the time of writing, opened the “floodgates” and she received 300 direct messages within an hour asking her to critique their profile.
After a year of reviewing dating profiles, the matchmaker shared the most common mistakes users might make.
You didn’t anticipate how your potential matches will slide
Avgitidis said you should first consider how your audience swipes: “If your audience is made up of straight men, you should know that they tend to swipe like psychopaths,” she joked, adding that they often sweep on instinct. “Only after you match will they go through the rest of your profile, read the rest of your prompts, and look at your photos.”
She said those dating women should consider how fun but safe they look, and should aim to include photos with their friends to show that there are people out there who can guarantee they are. accessible.
Profile doesn’t lead with your best photo first
According to Avgitidis, OkCupid found that profiles with photos where the person smiles directly at the camera get three times more likes. She said women who date men should also take a shot of their chest up while wearing color or standing in front of a colored background to draw an “instinctual hit”. For the same reason, she added that they shouldn’t use too many photos with their friends, as it might distract their attention.
Avgitidis also said that men tend to take pictures with their male friends in mind, for example, next to their car, and they should try to focus on their personality instead. In photos with friends, they should ensure that they are always in the center of the image.
Prompts focus on what you’re looking for rather than your personality
Not taking dating profile prompts seriously is the biggest mistake you can make, according to Avgitidis. “If it’s not unique, then don’t put it at all,” she said, noting that people who use prompts to talk about what they’re looking for are missing the point. “If you talk more about yourself, the person who is interested in you will match you,” Avgitidis added.
You’re too focused on getting lots of swipes rather than optimal matches
There’s a difference between a lot of games and good games, according to Avgitidis. “I try to give them the most optimal scans,” she said. “I want the person they’re actually interested in searching for them and then swiping.”
Her solution for online dating comes from her colleague Erica Eton, who abides by the “55 rule”, whereby users swipe 50 times or until they have five likes. “Once you hit that number, you look at your matches and you start messaging them,” Avgitidis said, adding that it helps you determine your turnover rate on a date.